Sex Before Marriage Isn’t Worth It!

Before getting saved, I was scared to make a commitment to save myself until marriage because I didn’t think I would be able to fulfill that vow. Instead I made a commitment to be celibate for three months, and at the end of that time I was going to evaluate myself and decide if I could make a commitment for another three months. Basically my plan was to continue that cycle, but after a few months of celibacy I submitted to Jesus and decided to wait indefinitely until marriage. God is so good because He helped me to continue on that path until I married my husband!

While it might not be easy, let me tell you that it is worth it! If this is something you find difficulty with, I encourage you to pray and fast for God to give you the strength because there are consequences to having sex outside of marriage. For one, it will cause grief to God because sex outside of marriage is a sin. The Bible says: Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV)

Next, you become spiritualy tied with the person or people you are having sex with. This means if things don’t work out, there is still a bond between you and the other person that can remain years after the relationship ends. This creates unnecessary “baggage” which complicates your spiritual life and impacts your future marriage unless you become set free through Christ. Also, the demons which are on the person you sleep with can come unto you as well. Meaning if that person has a spirit of anger, poverty, or pride you can find yourself battling the same demons.

There are also physical consequences to having sex before marriage. Are you prepared to take care of a child if an unplanned pregnancy happens? What if you get an incurable sexually transmitted disease (STD)? Are you prepared to be stuck with that STD for the rest of your life? You might argue that there are means of protection against such consequences, but the truth is that none of them are a hundred percent guaranteed. Many contraceptives even come with side effects. Also, Christians should not use contraceptives because it goes against the will of God.

I have heard people say how they wished they waited until marriage to have sex, but never have I heard anyone say they wish they didn’t wait! I want to encourage anyone reading who may be battling in this area, that Jesus can help you remain sexually pure if you are willing. If you think it’s too late for you because of your past mistakes, it’s not too late! If you ask for Jesus’ forgiveness He will forgive you, and can help you make a new commitment to keep your body pure.